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Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship - Are You Meant For Each Other?
By Matt Olson
You're thinking about breaking up and you get knots in your stomach. Ending a relationship is a huge emotional decision for most people. Trying to imagine yourself your life without this person who has been by your side all this time isn't easy. When you start thinking about all you've been through together, the work you've put into the relationship, the mutual friends, etc., you start questioning if maybe the relationship is worth saving. Is it worth saving? Here are some questions to ask before ending a relationship.
Do we communicate?
If one or both partners are not talking about their feelings or ignoring the needs of their partner, this relationship is not going to last unless things change. Real communication takes trust and a true desire to understand the other person. Good communication is more about genuine listening than it is about talking.
Do we fight about the smallest things?
Arguing over petty things is almost always a sign of deeper frustration and anger. You need to get to the root of the real problems. This goes back to good communicating... you need to both become good listeners and understand with compassion what your parnter wants.. and stop trying to "win" arguments all the time.
Has your quality time together practically disappeared?
People have busy lives these days but its important that your significant other remains a priority. Yes, it can take work. Are you and your partner willing to do what it takes to make the relationship a priority? That may mean setting aside "special" times during the week with no distractions.
Has trust been broken?
This is a tough one. Maybe one of you cheated. There are no impossible situations. Even trust issues can be healed. But that means both of you have to have work together to build that trust again. Counseling may be in order.
Can we forgive each other?
You're both human and that means mistakes are going to be made. Your partner is probably sorry for mistakes they have made.. can you forgive them? Can they forgive you?
Do you have different interests or goals?
This can really create a gap between two people. This gap will only grow wider unless you both become supportive of each other. Get involved and interested in each other's lives. It's ok to have differences, but you both may have to compromise... just make sure you find common ground and focus on that.
These are just a handful of questions to ask before ending a relationship. What if you've already broken up or the relationship seems too far gone? Is it too late to fix things? There are no impossible situations! People get back together all the time. This is a delicate situation however. It's important to not fall into petty fights or become pushy or needy at this point. Right now you have to let things "breath" a bit. If you feel in your heart the relationship is worth saving, then there is a good chance it can be salvaged.
Now you know what questions to ask before ending your relationship. Have you already seperated but would like to get back together? Can you win your ex back? Yes... but only if you avoid the common mistakes almost EVERYONE makes. Click here for more free tips on EXACTLY what to do and what to say to get your ex lover back in your arms (even if you are the only one trying.) You also have a chance to watch a testimonial video from people that have used these techniques successfully.
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